(no subject)

[camwyn]

Well.

Grandpa finally passed away last night.

I know I ought to be grieving, but Grandpa was in the end stage of Alzheimer's disease for a long, long time; I think, maybe, that I did my mourning a long time ago and only recognized it a little then. Now is better. Now he's free. Grandma said, when I spoke to her this morning, that she didn't know how to feel. Can't really blame her- they were married something like fifty years, I think.

I'm just glad Grandpa finally got to go.

God speed, Grandpa.

Comments

[tropes.livejournal.com]

Much love to you.

My grandpa died a year and a half ago after a very long battle with leukemia.

It was hard, but it was time.

*hugs*

[condotierre.livejournal.com]

*HUGS*

I'm glad he finally got to go too Og, so he won't suffer any more --you know what I mean, I'm not good at saying stuff. Drop me your cell; if you need, I'll call you whatever-time-and-whenever. Thinking of you, sweetie.

[camwyn]

Thanks, hon. I'll be all right, I expect, but I'll pass it to you when I get the chance. I appreciate it.

[sdelmonte]

Hugz and deepest condolences to you and your family.

Sounds like you don't need to talk at the moment, but you know where to find us if you do.

[camwyn]

Yeah, and I"m grateful... I mean, this is rather like when Great-grandma Carter died. She was around a hundred at the time and we were all pretty sure she'd lived the last few years of her life without dying because she was afraid of what might happen. When I got the news, I was just glad to know that she finally got to lay her burden down...

But thank you.

[charliesmum.livejournal.com]

Hugs to you and your family.

[gnomi.livejournal.com]

My condolences.

[temporal-tech.livejournal.com]

its so hard watching someone lose touch with everything around them. i'm sorry for your loss, but glad that your grandfather has gotten the chance to move on.

[cheezdanish.livejournal.com]

I lost my grandfather to Alzheimer's last year. I was in much the same place you are now, actually. The last time I spoke to him on the phone, he thought I was my mother, and just couldn't recognize me at all.

My condolences. *hugs*

[camwyn]

For the past six months or so, Grandpa's been at the stage where, if he were conscious at all, he had to be told to move his mouth when food was put in it, and where he had to be told 'move the left foot, now move the right foot' to walk (with support on both sides) the three feet from his wheelchair to the shower.

Sicnesses like this are why I agree with the Tolkien universe in calling death 'the last gift of Iluvatar to Men'.

[cheezdanish.livejournal.com]

About a year or so before he passed, my Pop Pop took the car and just... vanished. It was extremely scary. He turned up in an all-night coffee shop about three hours drive from where they lived, a day and a half later. He'd just been sitting there all that time.

I was also quite relieved that his suffering was done, yeah.

Still sad, though.

[filkerdave.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[cadhla.livejournal.com]

Love you, bunny.

[drharper.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

It was much the same for me when my grandmother died a couple of years ago. It was past time and, when she finally left us, it was more relief for her that I felt than anything else.

I'm sorry for what your family is going through, though. Hang in there.

[hangingfire.livejournal.com]

My condolences to you and your family. The death at the end of the long illness is such a strange event, with a hard-to-parse mixture of feelings. Still, you're right -- he's free now.

[sarekofvulcan.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Be ready for it to hit later without warning. When my Grandma died, I was fine while I travelled home, but when I actually saw her at the funeral home, I lost it.

[prodigal.livejournal.com]

My condolences for your loss.

[lasa.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry.
I lost both my grandmothers two years ago, one in the very final stages of Alzheimers, like your grandfather. She pretty much just laid in her bed in a fetal position for the last two years of her life.

I miss them both still. It's grace to let them go, but it still leaves a hole. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

[tamnonlinear.livejournal.com]

I felt much the same when my Grandmother died of Alzheimer's in January. She hadn't spoken in two years, hadn't been out of bed in three. My grandmother was gone long before her body gave out. Still, she was my family.

*hugs* to you and yours.

[mabfan.livejournal.com]

Condolences.

[k-onasuke.livejournal.com]

I was alive when my great grandmother died of Alzheimer's disease. In the last stages like she (and as it sounds, he) was in, they were not living - they were existing. I, for one, was not sad that great grandma died - she finally found rest from that sad existence.

[eevieivy.livejournal.com]

*hugs a lot*

Best wishes for you and your family. Take care, okay?

[vonbrigthi.livejournal.com]

My condolences to you and your family.

[zou.livejournal.com]

My sympathies. I'm glad he's free.

[just-the-ash.livejournal.com]

Both of my grandmothers had bad, bad dementia late in their lives, so I feel like I know where you're coming from. I'm sorry your grandfather had to go, but glad that he's not suffering now. *big big hugs*

[ladymondegreen.livejournal.com]

I hug you. This is what I'm looking at now, my grandmother is in the early stages of Alzheimers. She still knows me, but her brother didn't by the time he went. Sometimes I wonder if it's a good thing we're so long-lived and healthy in my family.

Feel free to come over if you want company, even quiet company. Sit and knit is fine.

*hugs*
LMG

[sundre.livejournal.com]

::more hugs::

I know you're glad he's at peace now, and I hope your grandmother finds ease as well.

[kyrielle]

I'm sorry that he's gone, but I'm glad that he's found peace. *offers hugs if they're wanted*

[zakkati.livejournal.com]

((hugs for you and your Gran))

:(

[trinityday.livejournal.com]

While I'm sorry to hear about your Grandpa, I understand completely how you're feeling right now. I felt the exact same way about my great-grandma when she died.

[isustrikanda.livejournal.com]

Hugs and prayers, chick. Even when it's a blessing, it ain't easy.

[chaos-wrangler.livejournal.com]

*hugs* and *sympathy* from me & G.

[batyatoon]

*hugs* May you and yours be comforted.

[kaikias.livejournal.com]

Love.

[arabel.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry to hear that - but like you said, it's good in a way. I wish you and your family love and all the best in dealing with it all. *hugs*

[quintus.livejournal.com]

Yeah, for what it is worth that's pretty much how I felt when my father died. For me, the man that he had been had been gone a long time already.
Thinking of you and yours at this time.